Wedding FAQ

Nicole has now retired from all ceremonies from 01/01/2020

Q. Can we choose our own ceremony and our own vows?
A. Absolutely! Your wedding ceremony should reflect your views, wishes, beliefs, expectations and personalities.
Having a civil wedding allows you to have input into your ceremony.
Whether you've wanting a "grand production" or a "romantic elopement" at Nicole's garden, you can have almost limitless choice with your ceremony, including your vows.
There are however, some legal requirements, and Nicole will be able to give you further details.
Your vows would need to have the following words...
"I ask everyone present to witness that I _____ take you _____ to be my lawfully wedded wife/husband"
These are the minimum requirements for your vows, but you can add anything to these words.
Nicole, as a fully trained celebrant with over 20 years experience and expertise (and over 4000 ceremonies) is happy to guide you and help design a ceremony just for you.

Q. We already have children (his, mine and ours), can we include them in our ceremony?
A. Ask Nicole about the many creative ways of including or acknowledging your children.
Here are just a few ways they could be included.....
Participate in your Sand Ceremony.
You could also present gifts or flowers to your children.
Depending on their age, children could also present the wedding rings.
Above all, no doubt you want your children, no matter what their ages to know that you love them, and want them to be part of your celebration in a way that respects them and respects their feelings.

Q. Can you help us with symbolism for our wedding ceremony?
A. Yes, of course. Don't let anyone convince you that a stodgy, stuffy, stale wedding is for you.
This is a once-in-a-lifetime day, so don't be afraid to bend the rules.

Sand ceremonies have become a very popular ritual within wedding ceremonies because they allow complete flexibility, and wonderful photographic opportunities.
You would also have something beautiful to take home with you to remind you of all the heart-warming moments of your ceremony.
You could include just yourselves, or your parents, grandparents, bridal party, your children.
There are so many variables. Nicole is the sand ceremony specialist.
All you need to do is ask her to show you how it can work.
Nicole can also save you a lot of time and effort by sourcing your sand and your bottles for you.

You could also include any of the following rituals. Nicole can show you how they work.

  • Sand Ceremony

  • Love Letter/Wine Box

  • Candle lighting

  • Ring warming

  • Flower Ritual

  • Exchange of Roses

  • Wine Ritual

  • Wine & Chocolate Ritual

  • Hand-tying/Ribbon/Handfasting Ceremony

  • 6 Ribbon Declarations of Intent

  • Guest Blessing

  • Remembering Loved Ones

  • Release of Doves or Butterflies

  • Including Creatures Great & Small

  • Jumping The Broom

  • Breaking The Glass

  • Crowing Ceremony

  • Marriage Box

Q. My father passed away recently. Can my mother, my brother or my uncle give me away?
A. Yes, anyone can present you in marriage, escort you, or walk you down the aisle.
There are several ways that you could honour your father's memory.
Maybe you could acknowledge his spiritual presence at your wedding ceremony by lighting a candle, having a photo placed in a prominent position, or by placing a flower from your bouquet on his empty seat as you walk down the aisle.

Q. My bridal party don't know what to do and what to expect. Can you help?
A. Yes! Ask Nicole for a copy of her specially prepared survival guides for the bride, groom, groomsmen and bridesmaids.
For larger weekend weddings, Nicole's assistant will be happy to help direct the bridal party, play your pre-arranged recorded music, and co-ordinate with venue staff to ensure everything runs smoothly during your ceremony.

Q. I went to a wedding recently, and I didn't hear a thing!
A. Nicole Celeban provides, as part of her Standard Weekend Ceremony option, appropriate support services, including a quality portable PA system (Mipro MA505)and cordless microphone, ceremony music and an assistant to ensure that your ceremony is memorable for the right reasons.
An Absolutely Fabulous Ceremony doesn't just happen, it takes careful planning and attention to detail!

Q. My fiance and I want to get married in three days, is this possible?
A. In most cases this is not possible. A "Notice of Intended Marriage" will need to be lodged with your marriage celebrant at least one month before your wedding can take place. Your "notice of intended marriage" is valid for eighteen months. However, if there are extenuating circumstances, you can apply to the local court or a "prescribed authority" for a shortening of time. These extenuating circumstances can fall into the following categories...

a) Employment or other travel commitments.
b) Wedding or celebrant arrangements, or religious considerations.
c) Medical reasons
d) Legal proceedings
e) Error in giving notice.

Nicole can give you further advice and assistance, but you need to remember that granting a "shortening of time" is not automatic, and evidence will be required.

Q. What documents do we need to provide to the celebrant?
A. Birth certificates and Drivers Licence. If you are unable to provide a birth certificate, you can provide your passport.

If either the bride or groom has been married before, they will need to provide documentary evidence of how the marriage terminated. Divorce certificate or death certificate. Please remember that all documents need to be originals.

Q. Do I need to go to the Registry Office to lodge my notice of intended marriage and arrange my wedding?
A. No, there is no need for you to go to the Registry Office for anything.
Nicole would be happy to assist you and take care of all the necessary legal requirements.
Nicole can also arrange for your "Registered" marriage certificate to be posted to you after your wedding.

Q. What should I look for when choosing a celebrant?
A. This checklist could be used as a guide for the selection of a Civil Marriage Celebrant to suit your needs and your personality. Maybe you could have a look at several celebrant's websites to see what they have to say. To save a lot of time and effort running from celebrant to celebrant, pick up the phone, call a few of them to have a chat. By using this ten point checklist, and by asking a few simple questions and listening to their responses, you will quickly be able to see if the celebrant belongs on your shortlist.

1) Does the celebrant have a professional telephone manner?
2) Can he/she speak clearly and confidently?
3) Is he/she cheerful and polite?
4) What level of training has the celebrant achieved, and does the celebrant know and understand the legalities and implications?
5) Has the celebrant conducted more than a handful of ceremonies?
6) Does he/she know how to listen to your needs and wants?
7) Does the celebrant have any creative ideas for including children and other participants in your wedding ceremony?
8) Does he/she have ample testimonials for you to view?
9) By viewing photos on his/her website - does he/she dress appropriately?
10) Does he/she provide an appropriate PA system, recorded music and an assistant?

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